Wednesday, 8 April 2015

Are You a Muslim Who Doesn’t Pray? Read On












Early in the morning..this articles come across my wall and I find it amusing and it slap me on my face..still trying to be a better muslim.. one step at a time.. Eventhough I still couldnt complete the 5 yet..but hoping to be there soon.. O Allah.. give me strength to love You more than myself..It's hard but I believe I could.. Thank you coz still remember to protect and guide your ignorance slave in every moments be it happy or painful..

So now.. I'm sharing it with you guys.. Read on..

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You want to pray, but you just.. Can’t.

Perhaps you’ve always wanted to be one of those people who pray.. It seems so easy for some. They just get up and do it. Perhaps you were one of those people at one time, but now.. Not so much.

Something inside you is broken. Scratch that.. It’s not exactly broken.. More like, it feels hollow inside. Something is missing. You feel nothing.. Numb.

So how do we get from this to praying? The problem with most advice on salah is that it looks at things from a reactive point of view instead of a proactive point of view. Not praying? Well, just start. Or better yet, take one salah at a time and keep building until you reach five. Good advice, no?

No. It doesn’t address what leads a person towards salah to begin with.

For some one who feels that hollowness inside, ‘just praying’ does nothing to stir the soul. It doesn’t fill you up. And, in fact, it can deplete you even further. No, you need to start somewhere else.. You need to fill yourself up before your actions all follow suit.



We pray because of one simple reason: We love Allah. It’s the loving Allah part that makes it easy. It’s the loving Allah part that makes you stand up when you’re exhausted. Without that piece of the puzzle, nothing else will make salah stick.

When we look at the early Muslims, when Islam first came down, were there a lot of commandments? No, there weren’t. The early surahs are filled with lessons about Allah, about His Angels, His Messengers, His Books. The rules and regulations came later, after the foundation was built. So when we look at our own lives, why do we focus on the rules and regulations without paying attention to the foundation first?

If we want to be amongst those who pray.. Who pray regularly and easily.. Who jump up when the time for salah begins.. Then we need to begin first by building a love for Allah. And in order to do this, we need to KNOW Him.

I always tell people who aren’t praying to begin first with dhikr. Say SubhanAllah 100 times each day. And as you do so, reflect on our own weaknesses, and the Greatness of Allah. Reflect on how it is only with His Help that we are able to do anything. When you do this, you’ll start a habit of THINKING about Allah. You’re remembering Him.

And what happens when you remember Allah? It starts to soften your dead heart.. You start to have more peace.. And most importantly, He remembers YOU.



Ibn al-Qayyim stated, “In the heart there is hardness which can only be softened by remembrance of Allah. So the slave must treat the hardness of his heart with the remembrance of Allah.”


“Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured.” (Qur’an, 13:28)

“I am to my servant as he expects of Me, I am with him when he remembers Me. If he remembers Me in his heart, I remember him to Myself, and if he remembers me in an assembly, I mention him in an assembly better than his…” (Bukhari and Muslim)

Be MINDFUL of this as you sit each day doing some dhikr. Think to yourself, I am walking towards Allah.. As the last hadith goes on to say..


“… When he comes closer to Me by a handspan, I come closer to him an arm’s length. If he draws closer to Me by an arm’s length, I draw closer by a distance of two outstretched arms nearer to him. If my servant comes to Me walking, I go to him running.” (Al-Bukhari)

You’re not praying (yet) but be mindful that you are getting closer. Allow yourself to be in a state where you know you aren’t doing what you’re supposed to, but you’re taking steps to get there. One of the tactics of Shaitan is that he leads you to believe that it’s all or nothing. Either you’re praying, or you’re sinfully not. So when we’re not, a dark cloud of guilt hovers over us, leaving us in darkness, unable to move forward.



Do you know the story of the man who killed 99 men?

Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Prophet of Allah (PBUH) said: “There was a man from among a nation before you who killed ninety-nine people and then made an inquiry about the most learned person on the earth. He was directed to a monk.

He came to him and told him that he had killed ninety-nine people and asked him if there was any chance for his repentance to be accepted. He replied in the negative and the man killed him also completing one hundred. He then asked about the most learned man in the earth. He was directed to a scholar. He told him that he had killed one hundred people and asked him if there was any chance for his repentance to be accepted. He replied in the affirmative and asked, `Who stands between you and repentance? Go to such and such land; there (you will find) people devoted to prayer and worship of Allah, join them in worship, and do not come back to your land because it is an evil place.’ So he went away and hardly had he covered half the distance when death overtook him; and there was a dispute between the angels of mercy and the angels of torment. The angels of mercy pleaded, ‘This man has come with a repenting heart to Allah,’ and the angels of punishment argued, ‘He never did a virtuous deed in his life.’ Then there appeared another angel in the form of a human being and the contending angels agreed to make him arbiter between them. He said, `Measure the distance between the two lands. He will be considered belonging to the land to which he is nearer.’ They measured and found him closer to the land (land of piety) where he intended to go, and so the angels of mercy collected his soul”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

In another version: “He was found to be nearer to the locality of the pious by a cubit and was thus included among them”. Another version says: “Allah commanded (the land which he wanted to leave) to move away and commanded the other land (his destination) to draw nearer and then He said: “Now measure the distance between them.’ It was found that he was nearer to his goal by a hand’s span and was thus forgiven”. It is also narrated that he drew closer by a slight movement on his chest.

What is awesome about this story is that he hadn’t dramatically changed in terms of his actions. He was just WALKING towards change. And that was enough for Allah. Allah is so patient that He watches us disobey Him. And He waits. Waiting for us to turn back to Him. SubhanAllah!

So begin by walking towards Him. And be mindful that when you do your dhikr, you are taking a step.

Another good step is to begin learning His Names. When you KNOW Him, really know Him, you can’t help but attach your heart onto Him. Knowing Allah’s Names will draw your heart closer to Him. And as it does so, you will remember Him more..

Over time, your desire to please Him and turn back to Him will increase.. And this, my friends, is what will fill you up. This is what will take away the hollowness.. THIS is what will make salah easy. THIS is where the advice, ‘take it one salah at a time’ will be beneficial. When you get to this place, it won’t be such a giant leap to contemplate standing up for one prayer. And slowly, one will become two.. And so on..

But before you begin building your prayers, take the time to build your foundations, just as they early Muslims did. Start with baby steps, like doing dhikr or learning His Names.

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Author: Saira Siddique

Saira Siddiqui is a freelance writer/online instructor who holds a Masters in Education. Prior to having children she taught for several years in the public and private sector. When she is not writing for others she enjoys writing for her own blog, Confessions of a Muslim Mommaholic. She currently lives in Texas with her husband and three children.

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Tuesday, 9 December 2014

31 Affirmations That Can Transform Your Life

Affirmation simply works. We really can influence our bodies and feelings with techniques designed to hone the mind, like meditation.

Pick one of these each day for a month and say it to yourself all day long.


Write them down, email them to yourself, and post them where you will see them every day.


See for yourself that affirmations are a way for us to harness the mind's power by directing our intentions toward our best selves and our happiest lives. Love your day, love yourself, love your life!

31 Affirmations That Can Transform Your Life


I am ready for change.


I love and accept myself exactly as I am.


I attract amazing people.


I always deserve love.


I am grounded in acceptance.


Others love me easily and joyfully.


People are just waiting to love me, and I allow them.

I am radiating love.

I am happy in my own skin.

I express love to all those I meet.


I bathe in unconditional love.


Love radiates from me at all times.

I love myself completely.

Love comes to me easily and effortlessly.


I give and receive love easily and joyfully.


I create my reality.


I trust myself.


I compare myself only to my highest self.


I now feel loved and appreciated by my parents, my friends.

I express love freely.

As I give love, I am instantly supplied with more.

I radiate love to all persons and places and things.

I breathe in universal love.


I am open to receiving love.


I am a radiant being filled with light and love.


I know my wisdom guides me to the right decision.

I attract loving people and relationships into my life.

I project love to everyone I meet.


Happiness is a choice.


I love and approve of myself.


The past has no power over me anymore.


credit : mindbodygreen


29 Tips To Get Rid Of Dairy (Without Turning To Soy!)

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Many doctors, nutritionists and studies agree that dairy ought not to be consumed in moderation — dairy has to go. Permanently.

Dairy’s been scientifically linked to acne, cancer and weight gain as well as stomach aches, gas problems and bloating.

Usually when people ditch dairy they switch to genetically modified tofu, processed “fake cheeses,” and sugary pints of dairy-free ice cream. Switching from loads of dairy to loads of processed, sugary foods isn’t doing your body much of a favor.

So instead, focus on phasing out dairy by adding in these healthy plant-based substitutes and watch your health, skin and pant-size improve!

Milks

Changing your milk is the easiest first step of phasing out dairy. 

Try these swaps:
Use coconut milk in your coffee instead of whole milk.
Enjoy almond, hemp, rice milk in your cereal instead of skim milk.
Use coconut or almond yogurt with your granola instead of Greek yogurt.
Make soups with coconut milk instead of cream.

Spreads

Swapping a plant-based spread for a dairy-based spread is easier than you might think. 

Try these:
Use almond, peanut, or cashew butter on your toast or bagel instead of butter or cream cheese.
Spread hummus all over your wrap or sandwich instead of cheese.
Slice avocado onto your burger instead of cheese.

Toppings

You don’t need dairy to top off your meal. 

Try these dairy-free yet creamy-full swaps instead:
Squish guacamole into your burrito, fajitas or tacos instead of queso and sour cream.
Enhance your baked sweet potato with avocado, coconut oil, or tahini instead of butter or sour cream.
Thicken sauces and soups with cashews instead of cream.
Pile tons of veggies onto your pizza or pasta instead of cheese. (Not creamy, but still filling and delicious.)

Sweets

Yes, you can still treat your sweet tooth without dairy. 

It’s actually really easy:
Make ice cream out of bananas and/or coconut milk instead of cream.
Bake with coconut oil instead of butter. (And coat your baking tins with it, too.)
Blend a hemp or rice-based protein powder into your smoothies instead of whey.
Use almond milk in your pancakes, muffins or cakes instead of dairy milk.

Snacks

This doesn’t have to be a bummer without dairy. Here are some simple dairy-free snacks:
Carrots and cucumbers with hummus instead of ranch dip.
Air popped popcorn instead of popcorn drizzled in butter.
Fruit with nuts instead of a candy bar.
Granola bar instead of dairy-ridden cereal bar.

Eating Out

When eating out, be careful of these sneaky places where dairy often hides:
In creamy soups like chowders or bisques (or even in some tomato soups!)
In oatmeal, which is often made in restaurants with milk, not water.
In thick dressings like ranch and thousand island.
Omelets, sautéed veggies or anything else in a pan is sometimes cooked in butter.
Smoothies from popular chains often include yoghurt or whey powder.
Sherbet, unlike sorbet, is made with milk or cream.

Mental Tricks

And finally, a lot of success with phasing out dairy begins in your head, even more so than in your coffee. 

Try these tricks:
When you crave cheese, remember WHY you’re cutting out the dairy: to feel better, to look better, or to live better (with more energy and zest) than you do right now.

Remind yourself that living that better way will bring you more pleasure than that bite or two of dairy.

Start simple — pick one of the above swaps and keep with it for a week or two. When that feels easy, add another. Then another. Keep going until you’re dairy-less and energy-full!

Don’t beat yourself up. If you mistakenly order oatmeal on vacation and realize midway though that it’s made with dairy, don’t tell yourself that you just failed and it’s all over. Instead, be happy you found out, don’t finish the bowl, eat some fruit and remember to ask next time whether or not the oatmeal is made with milk.

Credit: MindBodyGreen

Wednesday, 29 October 2014

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Hearing pregnancy news from frenzs and family members..at one time it hurts..at the other time I'm perfectly fine so long that they didnt tags me in the conversation..but in the end, the mixes of feeling comes and go as it pleases..Oh Allah.. please saved my heart from being drifted away..

Dengan namamu ya Allah,
Aku mohon .. Kurniakanlah dan percepatkanlah bagiku dan suamiku ..
Dari sisiMu zuriat yg dinanti ..
Dengan namaMu ya Allah..
Aku hidup dan aku mati..
Dengan namaMu yaAllah..
Perkenankanlah doaku ini..
Amin ...

Thursday, 25 September 2014

Bila hari subur?

#ada orang kondem bila me bd ngan dh waktu subur n kurangkan utk luteal phase..die kata mana boleh macam tu..mana ada waktu2 plak nak bersama suami nieh..kerap je bersama senang la dapat anak..lagi2 sblm period..main je hari2 selagi xperiod...haishhh nk ckp pon xguna ngan org camnieh..

#mood bengang bila baca tp senyap je la
#pesanan dari org yg slalu 'accident' bila merancang

#now dah faham kenapa endo kena amek duphaston start day 5 sampai day 22
#estrogen dominant




Bila hari subur?

Hari 1-4
Ini dipanggil fasa pengeluaran haid (menstruation) – ketika ini darah haid keluar. Hari pertama period adalah penting untuk diketahui kerana ia adalah di mana fasa ini bermula. Pada hari pertama haid datang, ia perlu ditanda di kalendar dan tamat selepas berapa hari. Sebaik-baiknya ditanda setiap bulan sekiranya anda ingin merancang untuk mengandung. Anda boleh mengagak kitaran period anda beberapa hari di dalam sebulan.

Hari 5-13
Ini dipanggil fasa follicular. Pada fasa ini, hormon estrogen meningkat. Ketika fasa follicular ini, darah akan berkumpul di dinding rahim dan menebal untuk persediaan mengandung. Di kawasan ovari pula, telur yang berada di dalam bekasnya akan menjadi semakin matang.

Hari 14
Waktu inilah satu proses peneluran yang dipanggil ovulasi berlaku. Telur akan terkeluar daripada sarangnya disebabkan oleh peningkatan mendadak sejenis hormon yang dipanggil Luteinizing Hormone (LH). Telur ini sekiranya tidak disenyawakan oleh sperma akan mati dan hilang. Sekiranya ia disenyawakan, ia akan turun melalu saluran falopio ke rahim.

Hari 15-28
Ini dipanggil fasa luteal atau fasa secretory. Selepas telur dikeluarkan dari sarangnya, sejenis hormone dipanggil progestrone di rembes daripada sarangnya (corpus luteum). Ini menyebabkan dinding rahim semakin menebal. Setelah progestrone semakin berkurang kerana tiada persenyawaan berlaku, maka dinding ini akan runtuh sebagaimana runtuhnya tembok Berlin. Proses akan mengalami kitaran semula pada hari 1.

BILAKAH WAKTU SUBUR?

Setelah anda faham kitaran haid di atas, waktu yang terbaik untuk bersama suami-isteri ialah pada hari ovulasi berlaku. Ini adalah kerana ketika itu telur baru sahaja keluar daripada sarangnya.

Bilakah secara tepat ia berlaku? Sebenarnya ia adalah lebih kurang 14 hari daripada hari pertama period seterusnya atau ketika fasa luteal bermula.
** (14 days from the 1st day of your NEXT period – NOT your previous period)

Tak faham? Macam ni. Katalah dia period 28 hari, maka hari subur ialah 28 hari – 14 hari = 14 hari. Jadi, hari ke 14 itu adalah hari subur. Katalah period bulan itu 30 hari, maka 30 hari – 14 hari = hari ke 16 ialah hari subur bukan lagi hari ke 14. Sekiranya periodnya 35 hari maka 35-14 = hari ke 21 adalah waktu suburnya.

Ini adalah kerana fasa luteal pada kiraanya adalah biasanya tepat 14 hari setelah berlakunya ovulasi, sedangkan fasa folicullar boleh berubah2. Jadi waktu subur adalah 14 hari sebelum hari pertama period yang seterusnya. Sekiranya period anda adalah tetap 28 hari, tak jadi masalah untuk mengira waktu subur anda. Sekiranya period anda berubah-ubah, inilah timbulnya masalah mengira waktu subur. Sila minta bantuan OPK (Ovulation Prediction Kit)

MENGANGGAR WAKTU TERBAIK UNTUK MENDAPAT ZURIAT

Oleh kerana telur atau ovum tidak mempunyai jangka hayat yang panjang, iaitu dalam lingkungan 1-2 hari sahaja, maka tingkap untuk mendapatkan zuriat adalah sangat terhad. Oleh itu Allah mencipta sperma dengan kelebihan yang lain pula.

Selain daripada berjuta-juta sperma dilepaskan (setiap seorang lelaki adalah jutawan!), ia juga boleh bertahan selama 3-5 hari. Ini bermakna, sekiranya suami isteri bersama 3 hari sebelum waktu subur, atau 2 hari selepas waktu subur, maka ada peluang untuk telur itu berjumpa dengan sperma yang hidup lebih lama.

Oleh itu, untuk mendapatkan zuriat, pasangan boleh bersama setiap malam (atau siang hari kecuali pada bulan Ramadhan) pada hari ke 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16 period untuk mendapatkan waktu optimum hari kesuburan sekiranya period anda datang 28 hari. Itu adalah menganggarkan waktu subur adalah pada hari ke 14


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